Do you normally sit alone at the bar staring at the cute guy across from you? Do you want him to come over to talk to you? Don’t be shy! Just because he is attractive and far away from where you are sitting doesn’t mean that you aren’t worth the effort for him to come over and talk to you. All you have to do is make yourself approachable to men. This is harder than it sounds. However, here are a couple of charming ways to help you be more approachable to men.
This is probably the most important thing. Flash those pearly whites of yours across the bar and the guy would see that as an incentive to come over to talk to you. A smile means that you are friendly and open for talking. It doesn’t even matter if it is a small smile. A smile can go a long way.
If the guy comes over and says hello, do not just sit there with your mouth agape staring at him. Don’t look at him like you never seen a guy before in your life. Start a conversation. The best way to start a conversation is to introduce yourself and talk about some general topics. Some general topics are: the place you are at, your job, your education, sports, etc. You want to find something that the both of you have in common so the conversation could carry out further. If the conversation is great and you are both having a good time, it is a great possibility that he will give you his number or he will ask for your number.
Show Your Confidence
Do not be shy. You want to show the guy that you are easygoing and friendly. You want to make the guy want to talk to you. Some ways to show that you are confident are eye contact and a clear speaking voice. A clear speaking voice means that you should not mumble, mutter, speak softly, or stutter.
Appeal to Their Interests
If he is talking about art and you love art, join in the conversation. You want to contribute in your thoughts and ideas. He will appreciate the fact that you are so knowledgeable. Also, if you two have a common interest, that could strengthen the relationship. He may ask for your number or give you his number to continue the conversation further.
Listen to What They Have to Say
You do not want to be the loud mouth at the party. Sometimes it is good to let the guy speak. He has a voice and he wants to be heard too. Also, if you listen, you may learn some things. What if he is a musician just like you? What if he is a basketball fan just like you? You would only know these things if you listen.
Speak and Don’t Be Shy
Similar to having confidence and not being shy, you want to contribute to the conversation as much as he is. You do not want to be standing/sitting there listening to the guy talk all night. The guy does not want to talk on and on. The guy wants to listen to you talk to. Just as you should listen to what he says and what he is interested in. He wants to listen to what you have to say and what you are interested in.
Keep Good Hygiene
This one should be obvious. If you give off a bad odor or have bad breath, it is very likely that guys would hesitate to approach you. Think about it this way: do you want to talk to a guy with horrible breath? No! The guy also doesn’t want to talk to a woman with horrible breath or a horrible odor.
Ladies, you want guys to approach you. You do not want to be that woman sitting alone at the bar staring at guys. You see other women being approached by guys all the time. You aren’t any different. You do not need plastic surgery, tons of makeup, or a skimpy dress to make men approach you. It is as simple as smiling at the guy across the bar. Try it.