Unprotected sex is a big step for many people. There are a lot of factors to consider before you decide to take this major step with your current partner. Don’t fall prey to having unprotected sex with a person you barely even know. Instead take everything into consideration and make sure you are ready to go forward in your relationship.
Having unprotected sex is a form of trust. So do you trust your partner? Has he had previous mishaps in his other relationships where he’s been caught in another woman’s arms? If you don’t trust your partner, don’t have unprotected sex with him. Why? Because if you do have sex with someone you don’t trust, you won’t enjoy the sex as much since you will be worried about what diseases you may have caught and you don’t know if he’s truly clean like he states he is. Don’t ditch the condoms if you can’t fully and absolutely trust your partner.
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If you do trust your partner and are currently on birth control, then unprotected sex can be an option for you. Just make sure that you take your birth control consistently in order to avoid any mishaps down the road. When it comes to this scenario, it is your responsibility to be on top of your birth control. So if you do happen to miss a few days, communicate with your partner and use a secondary source of protection to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.
If you and your partner decide to get tested together to check if you have any diseases, then the next step can be unprotected sex. It’s a clean slate if you both get tested together and are clean. Remember that you cannot determine if someone is clean based on their appearance alone. Do the right thing and get tested.
Are you both in the relationship for the long haul? Sit down and have a talk with your partner about how committed your relationship is. If you both are going to be monogamous and faithful to only each other, then you can and should consider unprotected sex. Again, make sure you both are clean and disease free and that you have some sort of birth control.
Do not decide to have unprotected sex if you are being pressured into it. It should be something the two of you both agree on. If he is trying to force you into having sex without protection don’t do it. You don’t want to do something you will regret in the future. If he can’t understand that it’s your personal reasoning to have safe sex then you may need to consider whether or not he’s an ideal partner for you.
Remember that in the end, you are putting your sex life in another person’s hand when you decide to have unprotected sex. You trust the person enough to believe their word and to give a part of yourself to him. If you don’t feel you can trust the person or yourself to do the right thing, then the right decision would be to wait to have unprotected sex.