You’ve been with your beau for some time now. You know deep down in your heart that you two are meant to be. So does a piece of paper documenting you two are married really a big thing? Should this paper dictate whether or not your boyfriend should have husband privileges? Is there really a difference between a boyfriend and a husband? Yes it should and yes there is. While you may love each other dearly and have an exclusive relationship, you shouldn’t place expectations or privileges on a person who truly is not your spouse yet.
When it comes to relationships, you probably hear the titles boyfriend and hubby being changed interchangeably. However when it comes to a married couple versus a couple in a committed relationship, the expectations and privileges are on a totally different level. Ultimately, getting married makes things official for the couple. With marriage comes certain responsibilities, expectations, and privileges. With marriage not only will fill the role of wife, your man will assume the role of husband. The title “wife” and “husband” won’t just be something that is casually thrown around.
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When it comes to giving your boyfriend, “husband privileges” you may think it’s not such a big deal because you do want to spend the rest of your life with him. You know you both are very serious and are very much in love with each other. However deep down inside, each of you also knows you aren’t ready to take the next step and get married and that’s all right. What isn’t all right is giving your partner certain privileges that should be preserved for a spouse. What often occurs with these privileges are unrealistic expectations and silent demands that can do more harm than good to your relationship. For example, let’s say you love cooking dinner for him and it’s something you do all the time for him. At first he’s appreciative of how you’re showing your affection but as time progress you can’t help but see his gratitude for you and your dinners slowly fade away until he begins to expect his dinner waiting for him when he comes home. Remember that just as much as he is susceptible to becoming complacent with all his special privileges, you can end up that way as well so be mindful of all the little perks he gives you. A relationship is a two way street.
Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t give your man some perks, especially if you both are very serious about your relationship. I just want you to keep in mind that you shouldn’t feel forced to give him certain privileges. If you want to give your boyfriend some loving then by all means do so. Just make sure you should not feel that you are being taken advantage of with all the loving you give. Keep in mind that if your beau really wants to be with you he will commit to you and take the next step.