How Many? Why the Number of People You’ve Slept With Doesn’t Matter…

Our personal lives seem to always be up for debate in the public eye. Everyone talks about what makes someone a ‘slut,’ or a ‘prude,’ but the truth of it all is: none of it matters. People seem to think that you have to keep track of everything that you do and who with, but we’re here to say that that’s actually a big lie everyone tells to keep women hyper-aware of their sexuality.

No one else needs to know

The truth of it is, you’re the only one who needs to know the exact number of people that you’ve slept with. Your partners may ask, and if you want to tell them then it is your prerogative, but the truth is that it’s no one else’s business but your own. People may talk, and they may act like you’re beneath them if you don’t want to disclose your personal life with them, but you don’t need to. If you tell them, there’s the possibility that it will change their view on you or they will tell you something that they believe you are doing wrong, but it is your life and your number that no one has a right to access if you don’t let them.


If you sleep with a number of people, then you have more experience to bring to the table. You’ll have more knowledge about pleasuring others since you’ve been able to deduce what works through your escapades. And an even bigger plus, you’ll be able to know what you like and how others can help pleasure you.

You can determine who you’re compatible with

Having a number of boyfriends enables you to determine what kinds of guys work for you. You’ve probably had a wider variety of guys to base this off of, and you can then determine that you just couldn’t handle dating a slob long-term, or that you really prefer the sensitive types to the bad boys.

Takes charge of your sexuality

It’s old-fashioned to say that women have to be the submissive and that they can’t be in charge of their own sexual prowess. There’s a well known double standard that men who have many partners are considered cool, but women are looked down on. This is ridiculous, as many of us enlightened women are aware of, but it doesn’t change that some still think this way. That’s why recognizing that sleeping around isn’t something to be ashamed of, and that you can be in control of your own destiny and sexuality. This also goes the other way in that if you haven’t been with many people, or are still a virgin, that it’s perfectly fine and no one can tell you what you’re doing is wrong.

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At the end of the day, your sexuality and your sexual history is yours and yours alone to know and be aware of. Others may be curious or pass judgments on you for whatever reason they deem fit, but it’s not their place to tell you what you can or cannot do with your own sexuality. Only you can know what’s right for you. If that means you want to let out your wild side and sleep with a lot of people, then that’s your right (just remember to be safe!). And if you aren’t ready for sex, don’t let anyone pressure you into it before you feel ready.