With divorce rates so high you can almost guarantee that you will meet a man who has either been divorced or is in the process of getting a divorce. This isn’t as bad as it appears, what it does show is that even though his previous relationship didn’t work out he’s more likely to be the type of guy who is committed to a relationship. Still, there are some things you should be cautious of. Whether or not you want to go ahead and see how things work out is up to you, but you will need to think about certain potential dangers. Keep reading to find out what they are.
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Timing: This is crucial, your potential lover might be in the process of a divorce, but has he actually got over the relationship? We have all heard the term “On the rebound,” this basically means that you immediately get into another relationship with the sole purpose of getting over the one that you just came out of. This is a deadly mistake because the wounded soldier is entering a new relationship with a truck load of baggage that you really don’t want to deal with. Before you jump in head first spend some time getting to know him to find out where his head is at. It won’t take long to realize whether or not he is over his ex-wife. If he’s still angry and bitter you know to keep it moving because as soon as he gets the chance he will take it out on you.
Move Slowly: If you decide to proceed with the relationship, the chances are he has been burned. He is probably going to have a ten foot tall wall around his heart and breaking it down is going to be a long and process. There are great benefits to moving slowly in a relationship, you will really get to know each other and build a strong foundation. It will also give you the opportunity to decide whether or not you want to be in a serious relationship with this guy or not.
Parents: His parents probably aren’t going to like you at first, but don’t take this to heart. If his wife was an evil witch they are going to be protective of their son. They are going to look at you with great suspicion and perhaps try and convince him that he’s moving too quickly. Don’t let any of this put you off and don’t try too hard to impress them. Just act normal, eventually they will warm to you.
The Ex and The Kids: Chances are there are going to be kids involved, if this is the case, you are going to have to deal with the ex and the children! This could get quite messy if the ex is the psycho type. If she isn’t bothered about him being in a new relationship then you’re ok, you will just have to deal with the uncomfortable small talk when she drops the kids off. If she’s the type of lunatic who is going to start bricking your windows in every week, you might want to reconsider.
Fingers crossed you won’t have to deal with rebellious teenagers who are really angry with their dad for not being able to hold the family together, but take it out on the new girlfriend instead believing that it’s your fault why mommy and daddy aren’t together anymore!
Minimal Game Playing: One of the advantages of dating someone who is in the process of getting a divorce is that there are not so many games played. The chances are that he is very confident about what he wants in a relationship because he now knows exactly what he doesn’t want. You will never be left guessing about where you stand or how he feels because he will be more determined than ever to get it right this time.
He Might Go Back: The major drawback about dating a man that is in the process of getting a divorce is that he might go back to his wife. Being in the process isn’t final, one day he might decide that he doesn’t want to lose his family and go running back with his tail between his legs.
He Will Have a Lot of Experience: Get your mind out of the gutter! I’m not talking about sex here. He will have experience in how to run a household, raise a family and yes sex is going to be one of those benefits too. Someone who has been in a relationship for an extended period of time is going to know much more about what it takes to make a relationship work than someone who doesn’t.