Getting broken up with totally sucks! And sometimes it can make you want to do things that are totally nuts- embarrassing stuff that you would never usually do. It’s okay to be upset, it’s okay to be angry but it is not okay to be crazy. Here are some simple rules to follow so you don’t end up being his crazy ex-girlfriend.
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Come to terms with the breakup. Accept that the relationship is over. Don’t’ try to salvage it or try to win him back. The two of you broke up and it is what it is. If you keep denying that the relationship is over, then you might start acting crazy. Let it go!
Don’t contact him. I mean no texts, phone calls, emails, snapchats. Nothing! Do not like his Instagram posts and do not leave videos of sad love songs on his facebook wall.. And especially do not leave that stereotypical sobbing voicemail asking him to take you back. It’s degrading, embarrassing and it will not work. Leave him alone!
Don’t rebound. They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. It’s not. You’ll probably end up feeling worse that you did before.
Act like an adult. I’m not saying you need to act like nothing happened. But do not harass him or start drama. Don’t make angry facebook statuses or spread rumors. Don’t vandalize his care. Even though you may want to.
Keep it on the DL. As much as you might want to shout to the heavens about how much you hate this man or how sad you are. But don’t. Don’t tell everyone you know and don’t post about it on social media. Tell a few close friends when you need to vent or call your mom. The whole world doesn’t need to know about your heartbreak.
Write it down. It may help to write down how you’re feeling in a journal or diary. Perhaps write your ex a letter and don’t send it. You can be as crazy as you want on paper and no one will ever know.
Don’t stalk him. You’re probably desperate to see him and if you were together for a while, you probably know where he works and where he likes to hang out. Do not go there. Do not try to find him. You will look creepy and sad. And out of sight out of mind, right?
Don’t get too reflective. It’s inevitable that you’ll look back on all the good times you had with your ex. But try to push those thoughts from your mind. Thinking about all the dates and inside jokes you two had will not help you heal any faster.