When it comes to dating, few slings hurt a woman’s feelings more than being called a golddigger. It is a title that suggests we’re shallow, that we only care about money, and that we really aren’t capable of love. That stngs, okay?
Blame it on Disney movies where rich girls happily run off with poor guys, or blame it on a society that increasingly forces women to shoulder men’s roles along with their own. Whatever the reason may be, we’re living in a society that discourages women to look at a man’s finances when choosing a partner.
This. Is. Wrong.
Guys might hate it, but women absolutely should take a look at how their potential partner’s finances are. If it seems wrong or unfair, deal with it (or die angry, we don’t care). Here’s why it’s okay for women to say no to dating a broke guy.
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Men are allowed to have their own preferences, so why can’t girls?
Women hear men wax poetic about how they insist on “no fat chicks,” or how they want women who fit a certain persona. It’s a part of everyday life, even if some of the things guys say are shallow or hurtful.
Well, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander, too. If men are allowed to have their own dealbreakers when it comes to dating, why aren’t women allowed to do the same? Truth be told, having preferences is a good thing for both genders. It helps us find a partner that would work with our goals in life.
Everyone is entitled to have their own desires. This includes desires regarding money. Deal with it.
Statistically speaking, women already do the lion’s share of housework. Why is it fair to expect them to be the primary earner, too?
We might not be in the 1950s anymore, but the burden women face on housework still remains unequal. Studies back it up, too. Women, even in “egalitarian” marriages, do far more housework than their single counterparts. This is still true when women are the primary breadwinners.
Guys, that isn’t fair. If you are willing to bring home the bacon, most girls will be okay with doing most of the housework. If you are broke, we’re going to just grow resentful of being both your provider and your maid.
Your financial health is still a matter of health.
A person’s finances says a lot about them. Men who are high earners have to be organized, driven, and focused on their careers. They have goals they’re very keen on achieving. Goal-oriented people, especially those who have attained certain accomplishments, are healthy people.
When a person is depressed, unstable, or otherwise in a bad situation, it tends to reflect on their bank balance. Just like men want to have a healthy partner, women want partners who are healthy too. What’s wrong with that?
Money also divides the “all talk” from the “all walk.”
True story: ladies hear men talking themselves up every day. Even the biggest loser on the street will come up with reasons to date them, even if those reasons aren’t necessarily honest. We need to be able to vet people who aren’t real about what they can offer in a relationship.
The easiest way to see if a guy can actually give us the life we want is by looking at his finances. It’s just that simple.
Moreover, having more money reduces the chances of divorce.
A good 30% of all divorces are initiated as a result of money woes. Financial stress is terrible for your relationship, not to mention your mental health. It is just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one, but the benefits of marrying rich outweigh those of marrying poor.
If you knew you had a higher chance of breaking up with someone just by looking at their bank account, wouldn’t you want to avoid that person? If anything, it’s a way to prevent the financial devastation of divorce from affecting two people.
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Having a bank account also means getting a better quality of life.
We can love Disney all we want, but let’s be honest, here. Life is a lot easier to enjoy when you have financial stability. Worrying about where your next meal is coming, whether rent will be paid, or how you’ll afford to pay your bills isn’t fun.
When you have money, you get to enjoy nicer things. You get opportunities that you otherwise wouldn’t have. You also get a better chance at having better health, a better retirement, and a better shot at giving your kids everything they need.
Choosing a partner that isn’t broke isn’t wrong. It’s your way of ensuring that your future will have as much opportunity and safety as possible—and realistically, isn’t that what we all want? Who you date has consequences. So, why shouldn’t you vet people by the lifestyle potential they offer?
Finally, it’s also indicative of a man’s class.
Yes, yes, money doesn’t buy class. However, money is a good indicator of a man’s socioeconomic background. Every socioeconomic strata has its own culture, ideologies, and behaviors. In other words, it’s a culture and a lifestyle.
If you’re looking for a financial equal, it’s often because you don’t want to deal with a potential culture clash, or worse, downgrading your life. It’s not easy to get used to living outside the means you grew up with. If guys can’t handle it, that’s on them.
