Is it really a taboo for men to propose on February 29? Owing to the fact that the Leap Day is somewhat symbolical? For women, are you still anticipating that your man will take the relationship to the next level by proposing to you? What if he doesn’t? You may be in a relationship with him for four to five years and he is still not thinking of proposing. Don’t be shy, it’s time to take the bull by the horn and get on your knees. Men, step aside, February 29 is a day set aside for the female counterparts to do what you have been procrastinating about. So ladies should take advantage of this day to ask for their lover’s hand in marriage.
Gone are the days when women would wait forever for their men to simply propose. In the 21st century, things have metamorphosed and time is simply against everyone. Why not you sum up your courage and surprise him with a proposal?
For those asking for the symbolism behind February 29, here is it. February 29 is a day that occurs once every four years. It’s a day that is surrounded with traditions, tales and stories, rooted in different cultures around the world. Hence, the year of a Leap Day is called a Leap Year. Like the year 2020 is called a Leap Year.
That’s not all. The first to start the Leap Day tradition was St. Bridget in the 5th century. She lamented the length of time men took before they could propose to their women to St. Patrick. St. Patrick, on the other hand issued a degree that women could purpose to me. Hence the Leap Day tradition. Since then, the tradition has spread to all parts of the world, with different countries stipulating certain ridiculous and strange rules for a guy that refuses a proposal. For example, in Finland, any man who turns down a proposal is subjected to buy his lady a fabric to make any size of skirt that she wants. In Denmark, a guy is obliged to by 12 pairs of gloves upon turning down a proposal.
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Do women want to really take advantage of the Leap Day to propose? Despite the popularity of this infamous tradition, many women are certainly not taking advantage of it. It’s not entirely their faults, they think is unconventional to do the reversal of what men were designated to do. The gender role reversal is somewhat unfathomable to some women. They view it as too direct, forward, and an act of desperation. Since they have this thought that it ought to be the male counterparts to propose, they simply wait and hope for the opportunity to come. It may, it may not.
Another reason why women are afraid of taking advantage of the Leap Day is fear. Fear of your man turning you down. Fear of not knowing whether it’s the right move or not. Fear of whether you are actually prepared to face it. Most women are ignorant of what thoughts are revolving in the mind of their men. These have been the reasons behind women preferring to wait forever than to face the sarcasm of rejection. Their self-esteem would be greatly affected and they may not come out of it.
On the other hand, there are a lot of reasons why you should take charge of a Leap Day to propose to your man. Perhaps, you feel your man is too timid or lacks the courage to say the proposal lines to you. This is quite popular among men. But if you truly love each other, there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t get down on one knee. However, marriage doesn’t depend on just one person. It depends on the two individuals. Before you say one or two things about proposal, ask yourself whether you are ready to get married. Ask yourself the reason for your getting married. Don’t simply propose because you are tired of waiting for him. If you don’t know what’s in his mind, discuss with him. Let him share his marriage plans with you and when you are definite about his stands, you are sure that he will accept your proposal.
Certainly, there are reasons why men may delay in proposing to you. Many men want to reach a specific level in their career, achievements, and finances before they can think of marrying you. In that case, you don’t have to rush him. You already know his plans. So, a simple proposal won’t change it. Instead, it will act as a reminder that you actually love him and are interested in spending the rest of your life with him.
How Should You Propose to your man?
Proposing needs to be planned before executing. You just can’t pop up with an idea on how to get down on your knees. There are certain things you must do or be aware of before you take that next move.
You have to first of all, pick your moment. Proposal is all about doing it at the perfect time. Timing is the “X” factor in getting that perfect proposal. You need to be sure that you have his attention at a 100%. Don’t bring it up when he is busy with one activity or the other. Watch for the perfect time when he is less busy and carouse him with topics related to your marriage.
Secondly, know his strong points. Most men are shy of being proposed to in public and it’s quite understandable. Your man can also be an extrovert, but may see you proposing to him as unconventional like most men. In that case, propose to him more privately. Still, If your man isn’t scared of being proposed to in a restaurant, park, or even in a garden, you can go ahead proposing. One way to do find out what he likes is carousing him with questions like, “how will you feel when you are proposed to in public?” and all that. Find out his response and use it as your additional info. Make sure you hide your reasons for asking.
Keep the proposal fun, witty, and flirtatious. Make the moment more of him than you. Tailor it to what he is fond of. Make proposals over a romantic date with candles, flowers, etc. You can decide to do it over dinner at your house or in restaurant.
By tradition, men are not permitted to propose on February 29. It’s a day reserved for their female counterpart. But traditions do change, and maybe, men would be allowed to propose on February 29.
