Do you have friends who would always judge you anytime you get back with your guy? Watch out for these types of friends. They are not there to make your life better; they only hang around to observe what goes on in your life and look for ways to judge you.
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Getting back with the same man over and over again after series of crazy fights may not be cool, but no one has the right to judge you for who you are and what you do with your life. When you friend starts saying stuff about you that is not cool, maybe is time to set such friend in her place or show her the door out of your life.
Here are few signs to spot a “friend” who do not mean well for you. If you close pal has the following characteristics, then you should kick her out of your life before she hurts you silly.
Make Humor of Criticism
Bad friends are out to make you mad, most often in public. When they see you are tensed up with challenges, they come around claiming they are there to ease your pain, only to get it worse. They will make fun of your challenge saying “I was just kidding, can’t someone joke with you.”
Always Wanting Dig up Dirt
Bad friends are always out to get bad news and feed more on negatives. Once you are a bit down, they’ll want to know why you are sad. Did you fight with your boyfriend? Have you guys broken up? The next day, they’ll come want to know more. “Have you tried calling him, he is not picking your call?”
At first, you will feel cared for, having someone that actually remembers to ask what’s happening in your life and always is always there to share your problems with. But with time, you will get to understand that the exercise is purely negative and it no longer a conversation but an interrogation. To make things worse, you will be talks like “I just wanted to know how to channel my prayers for you” the behaviors becomes spiritualized.
A real friend shows concerns, but still, allow to get some sense of privacy on personal issues. Bad friends are always wanting to find the sore in your life and never stop putting their fingers on it.
That Nagging Feeling
Once you start having this persistent feeling about someone in your relational circle, of not being worthy of your trusted or has an evil agenda for being friends with you, give him/her a closer observation– your instincts might be right.
Constant Attention
Bad friends always what to have all your attention focused on them. They strive to create intimacy in relationships; they want to become your best friend few minutes after you just met. They become friends with you on Facebook, ask you for a lunch date, and start calling all on the same day.
Fake Compliments
Bad friends are usually filled with praise and nice compliments at the onset of your relationship but will begin to get out of their shell with time. They will start to mix their compliments with little spices of criticism and, gradually insults. Don’t misunderstand a constructive critique of a mentor for the fake compliment.
Bad friends will always come up with sarcastic statements like “look who’s early for the meeting. Honestly, I am glad you finally made it,” and “That’s no bad write up, especially for someone with your level of education.”
Oversharing
Bad friends will go as far as sharing all the life experiences, including highly confidential details, on your first lunch date. They will always be there to give a helping hand, like, helping out with your projects, picking your kids from school, and many other stuffs.
With time you will notice there is an imbalance in the relationship, and in reality, there is. The frenemy will expect you to reciprocate the attention with interest.
Friends won’t go as far as sharing their private life and will also expect you to do same. Bad friends always want absolute entanglement in every relationship.
