Did you ever wonder whether or not your guy is simply putting up with you when you go in for the cuddle?
You may be surprised that deep down inside, that big tough guy of yours is just a softie. Yes. He may not tell you as often as you’d like how much he loves you. And you might think that he doesn’t have a romantic bone in his body. But he still likes to cuddle.
To a guy, cuddling is his quiet way of saying, “I love you.” And to your guy, cuddling speaks to him. He can tell how much you care by the way you cuddle. He can tell what kind of love you’re expressing by the way you cuddle. Cuddling is everything. It’s the warm fuzzy feeling of just being together. It’s the fire that ignites his love. It’s the reassurance that you and he are something special. It is the nurture that he uses to grow that relationship he’s taking the time have with that special person in his life, which just happens to be you.
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“But wait!” you might say. “I tried to cuddle just the other night and my guy didn’t want anything to do with it! What does that say?!”
Good question.
You can’t exactly expect your guy to want to cuddle with you if he’s watching the game. And if it’s hot outside, or humid, or he’s been working in the yard, or on the car, it ain’t gonna happen.
The same way there are moments you’re in the mood for love; there are moments your guy is in the mood for cuddling.
Before sex, you can get in all the cuddling you could possibly want and then some. He adores you and wants to express it in ways you’ll be receptive to. It’s a language to him, the language of love. After sex, however, your guy is ready for a good nap. And though some may enjoy napping with their arms around you, others may not. It’s not you. It’s not a reflection of his lack of caring for you. But he’s expressed his love and it’s time to spend his energy on other things, or rejuvenate with a little shuteye.
He, of course, will cuddle at other times besides just before sex. But those times are unique to each individual. Some guys like to cuddle during a drive. Other guys are the couch cuddlers. You may have a guy who cuddles at the movies. Find out what kind of guy you have. Because just like the women they love, different guys have different needs and different ways of expressing themselves.
So let’s put it in perspective. Let’s say you’ve got a fantastic book you just can’t put down. You like Thrillers and have been reading the gripping Under Lock and Key: The Experiment by Robin Geesman. You reluctantly had to put it down many times to do things like, go to work, make dinner, to catch up on the news, and so on. And you loved that book so much, that when you finally finished it, you still wanted more! And you were thrilled to discover there’s a sequel! So you went out and bought Under Lock and Key: The Zone. You couldn’t be happier with the story. But you still put it down, without guilt, to accomplish other things in between chapters. And you come back to it when the time is right.
You are the equivalent to your guy’s favorite read. He gets the same thrill at the thought of spending time with you! And he looks forward to the next time the two of you can get together again to cuddle and do other things.
