You are in a great relationship and everything seems to be working out well but wait! Just one little detail, he seems not to be concerned to take the relationship to the next level or to make a commitment. He assures you of his love every day, but your relationship seems to have come to a standstill. He is dragging his feet and you need to give them a little push, but careful not to seem desperate. You do not want to give ultimatums “if you do not propose by the end of the month am calling off the relationship,” this might backfire in your face. You might be ready for the next level, but you are not sure whether your guy is ready too. How do you naturally get your guy to propose?
Honest communication
For any relationship to grow strong, effective communication is important. Do not be blunt about your partner delaying but smartly bring up the topic casually and comfortably in your conversations. Maybe they are afraid of being rejected so the more you talk about it the more at ease your partner will be proposing. Apply the conversation in your everyday life; look out for your partner’s reactions and views on the future of the relationship. Put across your fears and expectations just to give a signal that you expect a commitment.
Be careful not freak out your partner by frequently talking about your dream wedding. Everybody has a dream wedding fantasy, but bringing it up always might get your partner afraid if they do not meet your expectations they might be rejected.
Hanging out with married friends
Take time and ensure you hang around engaged or married couples. Being around them subconsciously arouses his imagination of your life together. The friends openly share of their good times and bad times and how ultimately it is worth every step with a loved by their side. This helps by taking away the negative perceptions and feelings about marriage and give way to a new positive way of thinking.
Psychological twist
You can psychologically twist his mind and see his reaction. Try this tell your guy that you are searching for a new job or how you are considering shifting to another city. Give reasons as you watch his reaction and discuss about how you are not sure how your long distance relationship will work. This moment will give him a glimpse of his life without you and how it will be. He will think of how he can give you a reason to stay and make a commitment.
Become the perfect partner
If you are living together, it’s time to take the game to a higher notch. Show him that you can be the perfect roommate who is responsible and mature, who can take care of their duties without follow up. Take care of his clothes and meals and every little detail in the house the man will find it hard to imagine the rest of his life without you. The thought of you leaving him cannot be tolerated.
Reasons as to why he is not proposing
He is just afraid of rejection. If his parents are separated or divorced, it can be a major issue causing him not to propose as he thinks his own relationship will end up the same way. All this time you are waiting for him to propose and picturing ways to say yes, has it crossed your mind that he is scared you will hurt his ego by saying no. Make it easy for him by taking away the tension and making it easy for him to talk about it.
Hang around him less
Do not make it seem like your life revolves around your guy all the time. Let him know that you have your own life. Your man needs to know that you can have fun without him, have numerous plans with your peers, friends and family that lock him out. The purpose of this is to show him that you do not need him to be happy which will bring a different side of you he overlooked. Secondly, every man is jealous so the thought of thinking that during one of your outings you might meet a man who will sweep you off your feet and he will lose you forever. This will push him to propose.
Hint you have other people
Hint that your ex is reaching out for you; make a light comment when a cute guy passes by. These will surely be a red flag he will think that he is on the verge of losing you. However, this move should be executed smartly so it does not backfire on you, overdoing it will get you in trouble. If all works well he will propose sooner than expect to nurse a broken heart.
