To every relationship, they are power dynamics that are bond to play. Being expectant of these power dynamic in your romantic affair as well is ideally thoughtful for a better relationship. At the onset of most relationships there is usually an even amount of respect and power, while in others, one of the partners possesses the most power. Things may get complicated at some point in your relation, leading to a shift in power leaving you concerned. Funny enough, neither of you were bothered about respect or power. in the beginning, it was just naturally equal between you two, but as time went by you began to notice changes, that makes you feel your girlfriend or boyfriend is more in control. And, you will be left with the question “what happened to the love of your relationship?”
It’s okay for your relationship to experience a shift in the power dynamics. Some things could have led to a change in a partnership structure. The question is, how do you get it back on track once it takes a new direction (probably the one you don’t like)? How do you get your man to be the Romeo, he used to be? How do you save this plane from crashing into the sea and land safely home where there are joy and peace?
Here are some tips that will help fix the shift in respect and power in your romantic relationship:
Let Your Heart Out
Speak up; be clear on your pains and joy! The most effective way to gain control is to use your voice. Remember, no one will speak for you, if you don’t.
Let your heart out to your partner, because they are no superhumans with the ability to read the mind. Therefore, you have to express your feelings to him/her with words politely, of what you need your relationship to be.
Most women are dominated in relationships because they were unable to speak up and bare their feelings to their man. This is bad because if you have the wrong person in your life and he understands your inability to say your mind in the relationship, he will most definitely take advantage of this your weakness and use it against you to hurt you severely.
Have Self-Respect
It all begins with you, if you fail to respect yourself, nobody else will! You need to have some self-esteem if you want people to treat you right. Take some to reflect on how you talk about yourself, and how you handle yourself.
Do you indeed designate any power to yourself? Do always speak well about your potentials? Remember, the way you present yourself will determine the way you will be treated. Most women rely on their partners for almost everything in life.
This is worse because once your partner fails to realize this, you will be severely hurt. Do not burn yourself by depending solely on someone else for respect and good feelings. Treat yourself well, and others will follow suit.
Treat Your Partner with Respect
What you sow, that you will reap. Since you won’t feel happy if you are not well treated and respected, it means you have to respect and love your partner, to get equal and loving consideration too. This is also very important.
Most women are abused in relationships because they have failed to understand the dynamics of how things work. Treat your partner with respect, and if he is reasonable enough, he will return the favor. Know your limits with your partner and understand that you should not cross them. Also, know when to react to stuff and when to ignore them. This virtue will not only get you back your powers but endear you to your partner.
Be More Independent
Being active and independent is a virtue. You don’t have to rely on your partner for everything; you need to stand up to challenges, show him/her that you are capable of doing things, that you have got some strength. Always ensure to be self-sufficient in your relationship, you don’t have to cut out your partner entirely. And you’ll see, your partner will love and admire you for that.
