First off, congratulations! You find this guy interesting and now you have his number. What’s next for you is to find ways to keep things interesting. One of the first ways – texting! As little and effortless as it seems, it can be the major determinant of whether a relationship will be activated and how the relationship will go. It can also set the tone and prepare the environment for your first date. So, yes! Texting is key. But how do you make sure you don’t mess it up? This is because the same texting that can get you in the front door can also leave you out on the rain looking like a crazy big ‘weirdo’. We don’t want that, do we? Hence, here’s precisely how to go about the whole texting business for a guy you just met.
Don’t wait!
You already find him interesting, so why wait for days? Show some interest as soon as you can or he’ll immediately think you’re not interested. Many dating experts suggest texting him in the same day or the next. Be polite not desperate. More so, the thing with waiting is – you’re both probably just waiting on each other to text first and nobody actually does, so be bold enough to reach out – he’ll respect that. However, make your texts short and straight to the point. Don’t be vague as well. You should softly plant yourself in that guy’s memory and no better way to do that than to softly let him know he is in yours.
Try:
“It was nice meeting you today, maybe we could meet again sometime.”
“I’d really love that”.
This accentuates your interest, while leaving room for future dating possibilities, giving that certain guy just the right amount of green light to express his interest in meeting again.
Don’t be boring!
What you say is as important as when you say it. What you should never do is make the guy feel like he’s being interviewed, like asking direct unnecessary questions like “where are you from?” We’ve already established that you reach out sooner rather than later so you’ve paved way for some more texting. Now, what should be the content of your subsequent texts? Definitely not ‘hi’, ‘hey’, ‘hey there’. These options are not just lazy but sends off a ‘you’re not so special or important’ vibe. Try to be very deliberate. It may be a good idea to initiate the ‘hi’, like so: ‘hi Ted”. You can also be funny or try a light prank just to test his humor.
Try:
“Hey you! Stop thinking too much about me, you’re going to be late for work.”
“Hahahah…what?”
Be yourself!
When you text a guy you just met, it’s important that you be yourself as much as you can. You shouldn’t give him a fake version and then later, he’ll meet and get to know the real version. Don’t give too much information because you’re still just getting to know each other. Additionally, you shouldn’t lie or pretend to be who you’re not. If you’re not comfortable giving an answer to a question, then politely say so. Keep thing light and original.
Make bold plans!
Don’t be afraid to make plans to meet again. You should always look forward to meeting again because meeting in person aka dating is an active step towards a relationship so you should meet again as soon as you can. When you wait too long, he might lose interest, remember we meet people every day and someone else may be trying harder.
Try:
“Hey Phil, that movie you talked about is out. Perhaps we could go see it together.”
“Sure”.
How about Thursday night?”
“That would be great”.
“So 9 thereabouts?”
“Sounds great, pick you up?”
“Sure, I’ll like that 🙂”.
Don’t be too available!
While texting, try to end the conversation as soon as things get interesting. Keep him expectant. Also, always softly inform him that you’re engaged with something so that you don’t let off a ‘my day revolves around you’ kind of vibe and appear desperate.
Try:
“Hey Dean :), good morning. Just got a second at the office so I wanted to check in on you. Sleep okay?”
“Like a baby, you?”
“I slept great too”.
Then after just a few text back and forth…
“I have to get back to work any second but I’m here if you need anything 😉 or how about I text you when I get off. Sound good?”
“Awesome.”
You can also create events for future conversations. Like so;
“Got to go now, talk later?”
“Sounds good”
“Oh, before I go, here are the links to the songs we talked about, listen to them when you get a chance and let me know what you think later.”
“Alright, anything for the miss.”
“Lol, bye.”
“Yeah, later.”
Don’t be a pest!
Texting late at night or at the early hours of the morning is a complete no-no! Give the guy some space and don’t come off too weird or desperate. Also, don’t overthink short direct replies if that’s what you’re getting from him and don’t bomb his phone with endless texts especially if he’s not responding. You should give him at least a day and at most 3 days to respond before you send a follow up text.
Don’t overdo it!
Lastly let me leave you with this: Getting to know each other in person is more important than getting to know each other via text. Don’t give out too much information via text, leave that for when you meet so you can at least have something to talk about on your first date. Instead, focus your texts on making plans.
There’s a lot more to texting and the rules that apply so if you’re not satisfied, I’ll meet you at the comment section below. And wouldn’t you like to know “the text every man wants to see”, check it out here.
