Let’s assume that you that there is a guy you like, and you wish to establish something serious with him. That’s cool. But the unfortunate part is that your friend also feels the same ways for the guy. Having full knowledge of this fact, you still want to try to win this said guy over to like you better.
Let’s guy one thing straight; if you wish to win the guy over with full knowledge that your best friend feels the same way about the guy, it means that you have made up your mind to sacrifice your friendship with your friend. One thing is sure; once your friends find out that you are trying to win over the same guy she likes, she may not take it lightly with you.
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Since you have made up your mind to sacrifice your friendship to win this guy over, let’s go over some things you can do to win this guy over:
1. Spend more time with the guy:
The first thing you need to do is to ensure that you spend time with the guy. You need to encourage him to hang out with you. You can also fix an in-house movie time in your house and invite him over. Also, weekend night dates are the best time to bond with him.
Not just him, get to know his friends too. Knowing his friends and being on their right sides, they will encourage the guy to take things to the next level with you.
2. Increase Communication with Him
If does not just end with seeing the guy physically, you still need to keep the communication link open. Send multiple text messages to him and emails all through the day. Send him early morning text messages and good night messages at night.
Call to know how his day went. Always try to keep a healthy communication between the both of you. Tell him how you feel about him and be clear about his feelings too. Do not push yourself on someone who doesn’t want to have a relationship with you just because you love him.
Find out what he wants from you and make sure you both are on the same page. You can only achieve this through constant communication. If he is interested in you, you can keep the fire burning, but if he is not, you have to let him go.
3. Show Genuine Interest In Him
A guy will likely pick you over another girl if you show real interest in his affairs. Ask him about his hobbies, interests and like, and then work towards developing an interest in those areas too. For instance, if he is he a good fan of baseball, pick up interest in reading up articles on baseball, most especially about his favorite teams.
Listen to baseball news so that you will have things to talk about when both of you are together. You may also buy him tickets when his favorite team is playing.
4. Encourage Him To Let Your Friend Know How He Feels
It is better this comes from your guy than from you. Try to encourage your friend to let your friend know that he is already dating you. This way, your friend will move on with like. Don’t be pushy about this because it may make you look desperate.
Just bring it up once and allow him to decide on how to go about it. Clearing up things between your boyfriend and your girlfriend will help make both of them understand where they both stand and avoid any further disagreement.
However, this could be a wrong move especially when your boyfriend cannot be trusted. If he understands how the both of you feel about him, you both stand a chance of being used by your guy if he is a serial cheat. He could go out with both of you, and since both of you have feelings for him, you could both be hurt.
These are tips to win the guy over. But know that all these points reek of desperation. Be sure you want to go down this lane.
