Let’s say you went to have a couple of beers with your co-worker and one thing led to another and both of you had sex. How do you react to the situation? Your first reaction shouldn’t be to freak out. This post will provide tips on what next to do after you’ve had sex with your co-worker
1. Talk about What Happened
Ensure that you discuss what went down between the both of you and what your intentions are for the future. This is not a time to beat around the bush. It is the moment to be direct and straight to the point with each other.
You don’t want a situation when the other person starts making plans to blossom what happened into a relationship when all you wanted was a fling. Also, discussing about it will help prevent weird and uncomfortable moments between both of you in the office.
If you think it is okay to start dating, mention it right then and hear what the other party has to say about the situation. If your partner is of the view that this will get in the way of your professional relationship with him, it could be a sign that he or she doesn’t want to date you.
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If you don’t want it to turn to a date, then you have to mention it too from the onset. Remember, if the other party is not on the same page with you, that is, does not want to have a relationship with you, pick up yourself and move on. It is not a time to beat you up or feel ashamed on what just happened.
2. Make Sure You Get All Your Stuff
If it was at your place that the sex occurred, and then ensures that your co-worker gets all his or her stuff when leaving the house.
You don’t want the person using the excuse of I forgot something at your house to come back to have more when the person is not interested in having a relationship with you.
It will also prevent awkward moments at the office the next day when the person informs you that he or she wants to come by and pick stuff from your house. Ensure there is no ‘mistakenly’ leaving the item in your house to collect later.
3. Go to Work Separately
In other to prevent gossips from other co-workers at work, ensure that both of you go to work independently. One of you may need to use a taxi while the other drives in. This will help reduce gossips while both of you figure out what you want from the relationship.
4. Don’t Tell Your Co-Workers
Make it a rule that what happened earlier should remain a secret between both of you. Avoid sharing information about what went down to your co-workers, even your friends. Gossips do spread fast, and it takes just telling one person for the entire office to know what happened. Also, try to keep what happened off the social media. You never know who is secretly checking your social media profiles. Telling your co-workers about your sexual escapade with a colleague may sound fun, but you don’t know when the cat will get out of the bag and such information can go as far as costing you your job.
Your company policies may frown against such relationship, and this means trouble if it gets into the PR. So do not spill out such information when it happens, and make sure you are on the same page with your co-worker on your decision to keep it private.
5. Don’t Beat Yourself Up
Unless you planned to sleep with your co-worker and it didn’t happen by chance, they are no reason to feel guilty about what just happened. We all have our moment of weaknesses, and we make mistakes. So if this was a mistake, you should spend more time on figuring out how to prevent it from repeating itself than feeling guilty.
If you have no feelings for your co-worker, clearly let him understand that there is no future between the both of you. This way you won’t lead him into thinking that a relationship is probable.
Finally, make sure it doesn’t happen again. Do not put yourself in an awkward position or risk your job for a few minutes of sexual pleasure.
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