At the beginning of a relationship, you may view your man as perfect. One without blemishes and one who would stay absolutely faithful and committed to you. But then, you discover something has gone amiss. Well, if the relationship is still fresh and you haven’t had that kind of “exclusive” conversation with him, he may have some reasons and excuses to date other women. That is because he’s still seeing the relationship as a casual one and the hurtful truth is, he may be right.
However, if you have had the “exclusivity” talk with him and you still feel nothing seems okay and the relationship has taken a negative downturn of late, check it out, he may be juggling some women out there. He may not be sleeping with the other woman, but he is emotionally and physically interested in her and in no time, he may have to dump your ass for her.
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Sometimes, it can really be hard to tell if he is onto another woman. That’s because some men just have the talent of dating multiple women and still keeping it cool in the bedroom. If you see him exhibiting the signs that will be discussed here, he has given you the reason to freak out or be wary. Once that spark is no longer there, there you should either talk to him about the relationship or walk away.
Sometimes, not every date leads to a serious relationship. Some women have difficulties facing reality. They cook up excuses as to why he is not calling or texting like before or why he’s stopped visiting. The truth is a man disinterested in you will give you tell-tale signs to move on. It’s left for you to acknowledge those signs and turn the other way.
Reasons why a woman may want to stick to a man that is no longer into her
If the woman suffered from an emotional heartbreak or ended a long-term relationship due to cheating in the past before meeting the man, she will tend to hold on to him once she sees him as a rare gem and a bundle of her joy. She may want to take things slowly and avoid discussing some sensitive issues with him because she feels her “angel” will let go of her if she takes it too far. Hence, she assume in her mind that everything is okay when they aren’t. Even when she sees the signs that the man isn’t into her, she may still want to hang on because she is afraid that she won’t see any other man that makes her happy as he does. This a fatal error and she is just causing yourself pain. Is that worth it?
A man, on the other hand may want to end things with you, but he doesn’t know how to. Maybe you are no longer his type or he’s seen a fault in you that he’s just not willing to confess because he doesn’t want to be the one to break the bad news. So, he keeps you in limbo and leaves you to decide whether you should head towards the exit door or not.
These are the major signs that he is no longer into you and dating other women.
They find it difficult to communicate with you
When the relationship started newly, he was texting you like thrice a day and calling you half of the time. But as the relationship progresses, he finds it difficult to even send you a good morning or good night text. This is the first and most common sign that he’s not into you and is likely dating other women.
He doesn’t respond to your calls or messages
Even when you text him or call him as a result of him not calling you, he doesn’t reply. You may send ten messages and call him severally, but he will only reply your text with a line of believable excuses. That is just a hint that he is into another woman.
He doesn’t take you to meet his friends
A guy who is serious on taking the relationship to the next level will definitely take you to see his friends. He would love you to see the inside of his world to know everything about him. He wants you to know the people that are important in his life and is proud that he is taking you to meet them. However, a guy who is bent on having a one night stand with you or isn’t into you will never introduce you to his friends. He will keep stalling you, even if you plead with him a countless number of times to take you to meet his friends. That’s because he knows he isn’t planning a serious relationship with you. He just wants to keep things casual.
He doesn’t want to commit
He’s clearly not interested in having to do anything that would warrant him being together with you. Whenever you tell him you have plans to go out with him, he declines. Sometimes, he puts you in suspense with “maybe”. His answers are never straightforward and he will back it up with work excuses. If this happens all the time, that’s a sign that he is probably dating another woman.
He checks out other women in your presence
Gosh! This is really disrespectful, but a man who isn’t into you will notice other women in an attractive way. Imagine you are discussing with your man in a bar, restaurant, or he took you to do some shopping and he starts to check out the ass of a woman who is passing seductively. He will go to the extent of denying it. What would you do? Kick him on the leg, slap him or rip his balls off him? Whew!
He doesn’t have to do it in your presence. Most times, he does it when you are looking the other way or absent. A man who is gawking at another woman tells a lot about his relationship with you.
He’s not specific about your position in his life
If he avoids introducing you as his girlfriend in public, then, you should be aware that he’s not planning anything with you. Even when you confront him about your relationship status, he mumbles and freak out a little before stating the obvious. Nothing seems clear to him and he avoids spilling out specific details.
He assumes doing things with you that he didn’t
Bad memory? No, I don’t think so. He is finding it difficult to keep to details because he has an array of other women in his life. Imagine he says something about going to eat in K restaurant as if you have eaten there together when you clearly haven’t even heard of the name. It shouldn’t be difficult for him to remember the activities you both did together. If he’s finding that difficult, he’s onto other women. That’s it.
He doesn’t answer his phone or reply texts in your presence
Whenever his phone beeps, he finds it difficult to answer. And when he plans on answering, he goes as far as the other room to answer call. When he gets a text, he checks the sender and either shoves it back in his pocket or goes the other way to reply.
That’s not all though. If you ask him who the caller was or who texted him and he reluctantly answers, that means you are one of the many women he’s seeing.
He doesn’t take you out on dates anymore
He probably took you out on several dates when you started, but as time went on, he finds it difficult to go dancing with you. And it’s been two, three, or five months since he last did that. It’s more about home than outside and there may be a reason for this – he doesn’t want you to bump into one of his “many women”.
What to do?
Is there anything you can do about his abnormal behaviors? Of course there is. The first thing is communication. If you plan on having a long-term relationship with him, discuss it with him. Don’t leave him in limbo about what you want. Also, discuss about the exclusivity thing. Be straightforward with him. If he’s comfortable, fine. But if you see he isn’t interested in you, just take a bow. It’s better than having a breakup at the end.
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