At some point in a relationship, you move in with your boyfriend. You guys do things together, enjoy each other’s company and bam, he throws the bomb that he wants to move out of the house. His decision hurt your feelings big time especially if both of you had it going well.
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Your boyfriend moving is not the end of the relationship. The way you handle his decision matters a lot. If you start throwing tantrums, you may push him out of the relationship entirely. This post will outline the best way to handle the situation and still build a stronger connection with your boyfriend.
Some Reasons Why Your Boyfriend May Want To Move Out:
1. Need for Space
Your friend may be one of those people that love their personal space. He may be in need of a personal space to do things on his own.
Don’t just it wrong; it doesn’t mean that he does not want you around anymore. It is just that he may be in need of a space to call his own. Sometimes in relationships, things move too fast, and everybody gets confused.
Your boyfriend may want some space to clear his head and wrap his mind around life. Pushing him away from wanting space could be dangerous. You may fuel his doubts about the relationship and push him to make the wrong decisions.
2. Career Change
A career or job change can require relocating to a location near the office. Thus, your boyfriend may be moving out to enable him to stay close to his workplace. Career change is a huge part of our lives as it can change lot stuff.
Your boyfriend needs your support if he says he has to move out because of work. You shouldn’t nag him, instead sit him down and discuss how you guys are going to keep the light burning. If he has to relocate to another state, then it’s a big one. You have to come up with plans to stick together if you both are still interested.
3. Pressures
Another reason why your boyfriend may want to move out is pressures from either you or his peers. Have you been nagging him of your marriage plans or a particular thing you need?
If the fault is not from you, then it may be that his peers are putting pressure on him to get his personal space as a man. Allow him the space he wants if you notice he is under pressure. He probably will clear his head and get back to you once he feels better about you two.
How to Handle the Situation:
1. Have a One-On-One With Your Boyfriend
When your boyfriend drops the bombshell of his plans to move out, you may need to take a walk to process the information.
After that, you need to have a personal communication time with your boyfriend. This is not the time to lay blames or blow steam. Ask him his reasons for his decision and try to hear him out.
2. Be Ready To Compromise
After your boyfriend states the reason for his decision, you can convince him to make a compromise. The compromise should be coming from both parties and not you alone. For instance, if his reason for moving out is a need for space, both of you can work out a plan to give him his needed space a couple of hours a week.
3. Decide On a Strong Communication Link
If after the talk your boyfriend still wants to move out, and then allow him to do so. But first, you need to ascertain whether he still wants the relationship to work.
If he wants to make it work, then both of you should come up with plans to keep the relationship going. It may include going for dinners three times a week. It may be chatting online all through the day.
If on the other hand, he isn’t sure he wants to make the relationship work, then it is time to move on. This is the best way to keep going strong if you both want to keep things together.
