What if you find yourself in a situation where you are really into a guy and your best friend comes in one day looking so exciting and shows you a picture of a guy he has feelings for and it happens to be the same guy you are into.
thing is that, your friend doesn’t even know that you like this same guy. How do you intend to handle the situation? A lot of girls find themselves in this situation. Sadly, they don’t handle it well and they end up losing the friendship with their best friend. This post will enlighten you on the next step to take if you like the guy your friend likes but she doesn’t know.
1. Open Up To Her
Your first instinct will be to keep the knowledge that you like the same guy away from her. This is a wrong way to handle the situation. If at the end you date this guy or build something strong with him, your best friend will still get to know at the end of the day and it will hurt her more
It is best to open up to her in the earliest stage when you discover that both of you likes the same guy. After all, she was honest enough to tell you that she likes the said guy. Reciprocate the honest by letting her know that you fell the same way about the said guy too.
The best time to inform her is at the point when she tells you that she likes the guy. It could be a crush then. If by chance you didn’t inform her then, then call her up as soon as you can and fix a meeting with her. Find a place where both of you can have all the time you want to discuss with little distraction.
2. Valuate Your Friendship
You need to consider the value you place on your friendship with your best friend. How far has both of you come? How long have both of you known each other? Are you willing to let go of the friendship to be with this guy? Both of you have to consider the value you place on the friendship.
Is it enough to call off the friendship because of the guy? If both of you come to terms that you value the friendship more than starting a relationship with the said guy, then both of you have to come to pact that you will not give up on the friendship no matter who ends up dating the guy. Make sure your friend understands that you both never knew about your feelings for the guy prior to her revelation. This will help douse any feeling of betrayal that may arise in the future.
Tell your friend how you feel about the whole issue and let her understand you are not going to let a guy come between the both of you. It will be difficult if you are already head over heels in love with the guy but you both can work something out and not feel betrayed at the long run.
3. Both Of Your Should Move On
Making a choice on whom amongst the both of you to date the guy may lead to misunderstanding and it may hurt the friendship. If it boils down to that, I think the best thing to do is to agree with your friend that none of you date the said guy.
There are millions of guys out there, both of you can meet another great guy without ruining your friendship. This is very difficult, only true friends can actually agree to both give up a guy for the sake of their friendship. This decision will strengthen the bond between you two and help your relationship move to greater heights.
However, if your friend insists on keeping the guy despite all pleas to work things out with you, then you have be the matured one here and move on. Let your friend have her wish. Another guy will come around and you would be happier and fulfilled knowing you don’t have to share him with someone else.
