Staying with an ex after a break is not good. It is unhealthy not just for your emotional wellbeing but your focus as well. You still see people sticking with their ex even after a breakup. Some of the reasons why you may consider to stay friends with their ex after a breakup include;
1. You Have the Same Friends
If your friends and family are of the view that you should step friends with your ex, you may likely do so. This does not mean that staying friends with your ex to please your family is a noble thing to do.
If that is the only reason why you choose to remain friends with your friends, then you may have issues. It is not mandatory that your ex-has to be present when you want to spend time with your friends. Even if you don’t mind running into your ex once in a while, it is not okay to stay friends with your ex.
However, your ex knows most of your friends and vice versa. So chances of running into him on different occasions are not be written off. If you don’t want the awkward feeling of having to hang out with your ex and your friend, it’s best you stay friends with him.
It may hurt initially, especially when you guys just called things off, but you would get used to it and be fine. If you are not comfortable with this, then don’t do it at all.
2. You Feel Bad For Your Ex
Another crazy reason why you may decide to stay friends with ex maybe because you feel bad for your ex. If your ex is not taking the breakup well, you may not want to further hurt him or her by rejecting their offer to remain friends with you.
The truth remains that it is not your duty to heal your ex’s heartache. Your support may even make matters worse. Your ex may crave for support from you, but the truth is that he or she may not be able to move on when they continue to depend on your for support. Instead of shouldering the responsibility of making an ex-feel better, ensure that he or she is getting support from people around him or her.
Make sure you don’t fuel any hope of getting back together if you don’t want to, and if your ex is becoming too clingy and don’t want to accept the fact that you guys are no longer together, you better call it off entirely.
3. You Want To Keep Tab on Your Ex
You may be painful to discover that your ex has found happiness with someone else even when you know that the relationship was not meant to be in the first play.
You may decide to stay friends with your ex in order to stay in the know of what is happening in your ex’s relationship life.
This is creepy, and if continue this way, it will be difficult to move on. Don’t do this unless you are sure you are not going to get to attached with snooping on your ex and end up hurting yourself when you find out she has finally moved on.
4. You Are Lonely
Breaking up may create a hole in your social life. That is the hole which your ex did fill when both of you were still in the relationship.
For instance, you may be feeling lonely on a Friday night and crave to have your ex come over for a movie time.
This can lead to a relationship rollercoaster which leads to uncertainty and makes it even more difficult for you to move on. When you are feeling lonely, learn to seek support from other friends and family instead of spending the time all alone.
5. You Hope That Things May Change Someday
It may be that the reason you broke up with your boyfriend was because he was unfaithful or he had a habit you didn’t like. You may be waiting and hoping that your ex will learn from his mistakes and you guys will get back together. This is very pathetic; do not hold on to something that is not meant to happen.
