Texting can be a little tricky but it can also be the complete juice for a healthy date life. Even if a guy is not that into you, your texting can completely change his mind. But whatever happens, the last thing I want is for you to feel terrible wondering why he never responded. Many times it’s nothing personal and has absolutely nothing to do with you. I mean, life happens right? However, the right text can beat ‘life’ and since it’s not so easy to know (on your own) if a guy is into your texts (especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a while), I’ve decided to help you out with that.
Before we begin though, a little side note: This article is focused on the sort of texts that will have that certain guy calling out your name in his sleep. However, before you know what to text a guy you’re into, you should know when and how. I’ve already discussed the role of texting, when to, how to, the degree of information to share in a text with a guy you just met along with other helpful information, in another article. On that account, I won’t be repeating any of that information in this article. So, if you’ll like to check it out, please do because, even with knowing what type of texts, you could still mess it up, appear desperate, jeopardize your efforts with bad timing, or overdo it, if you don’t follow certain texting principles. That’s not cool. Don’t say I didn’t tell you though! Here’s precisely how to go about the whole texting business for a guy you just met.
Okay, back to the topic! Let me ring the alarm a little bit here – be careful what you text! From experience I can tell you that, what may be acceptable in a real life face-to-face conversation may come off as offensive, weird, desperate or creepy via text, especially to someone you’re not buddies with yet. Make sure you always read through and rule out all of these possibilities and thankfully, we have lots of emoji.
Now, guys like it when you’re somewhat forward and bold but don’t over crowd their space. When you reach out, leave room for them to reach out themselves too. This one’s tricky because whether they’ll crave to and eventually reach out, depends on how interesting you were in the last texting episode. When your card are played right, you leave them expectant – I’m so tempted to exemplify but I’ve sampled what I mean here in that other article.
That being said, I know you want him pretty bad, so let’s get him to want you back, shall we?
Try to be a little mysterious – guys like that! It keeps them guessing, you’re like an interesting puzzle they’re trying to figure out. Try to expand conversations and don’t vomit everything about you over texts so there’s room to get to know each other in real dates. You should also not give direct answers. Give an answer without giving an answer and sometimes it helps to answer a question with a question, like so; “wouldn’t you like to know?” Here’s an example…
“Where did you grow up?”
“Take a guess”
Many guesses later…
“I’m out of guesses, would you just tell me already?”
“Hahahah… I see that. Well, perhaps I’ll show you someday”.
To keep the conversation a little more engaging and interesting, you can make jokes or ask some “by the way” questions or have other sorts of conversations about some of his guesses before continuing on more guesses. That way, he doesn’t exactly get his answer, but he’s still enjoying your company. Plus, you guys talked a lot so he got to know a few things without exactly knowing something and you got him to share more (if he’s not a wordy type). He’ll go to bed trying to figure you out and he’ll keep imagining where you must have grown up. Also, he’ll look forward to seeing where you grew up someday so now he has some sort of green light to ask you out on a proper date.
With the way you handled this conversation from the start, I bet you – he already called! I doubt you guys talked about all that via texts.
Another important factor is observing his cadence and matching it. Start at his pace, then slowly escalate. Don’t be too forward to talk too much, let it happen naturally over the course of your conversation. If his texts are one-liners and short, that’s how yours should be. Cut the story! And please be patient for the love of love – he may not always respond as at when you expect. Don’t also bomb emoji like crazy – take things slow, be light, fun and interesting.
Lastly, erase shyness! I mean you like him right! Try to be a bit ballsy. Ask him if you can call him. Hell, ask him out, will you?! But be sure to observe the conversation and see when it opens a window for a bold request and don’t be desperate when you do so, thus, the need to read that other article. Was I helpful? Or perhaps you have questions, suggestions or additions, let’s “text” in the comment section below ;).
