Are you wondering when you need to take the next step and get rid of condoms from your relationship? Come on board as we take you through all you need to know about removing condoms and factors you need to consider before you do so.
Having unprotected sex is a big decision that comes with so many risks and uncertainties. So when you think of all the pleasure and convenience that comes with no condoms, think about the risks involved and why you need to stay protected.
If, however you feel you have reached that level in your relationship where you no longer need condoms, there are things you need to do before you get rid of them. The following tips will guide you through these things:
You Both Need To Get Tested
Before you go raw in the bedroom, be sure you’ve both been tested for STDs. When it comes to the aspect of being checked, you don’t have to trust people with their word. If your guy says he’s already been tested before, they don’t need testing because “they know they’re all clean” (many STDs are asymptomatic), politely request both of you go get tested again, for maximum safety.
Think of what is like to have unprotected sex with a guy, every time you both have sex, it’s like you’re also having sex with anyone he has ever had sex with, and every other person they’ve had sex with. Which makes you very vulnerable to a lot of germs, infections, and diseases.
Have A Clear Definition Of The Risk Factors
Having sex without condom entails lots of risk factors, and most of them can remain a stigma for a while or even throughout your entire life. Now, let me clarify more, you could get pregnant or even an STD from having sex without a condom. I have seen both things happen to friends; it’s no folktale! The drag out technique is not reliable and tends to fail most times unless it’s executed entirely well.
In the heat of the moment, we often prefer pleasure over protection, before you allow him to take off that condom, girl! Remember to ask yourself plainly, “Am I ready to let these few moments of fun get me into an STD for life?” It’s imperative you have the long-term consequence in mind always, however, if you decide to do away with condoms in your relationship, be sure to make a replacement with something else like spermicide, an IUD (for birth control), etc.
Having unprotected sex comes with both physical and emotional risks as well. Are you sure, your partner, your relationship and you as well are matured enough to control them?
The Decision Is Mutual and Consensual
If you are planning on letting go of condoms in the bedroom, ensure that both you and your partner are cool with the idea. If he is one pressing on the issue of not using condoms in the bedroom only because they “numb the experience they don’t feel good” and deep down within you, you are not comfortable about having unprotected sex, then you shouldn’t. It’s never ideal to have unprotected in your relationship until both you and your partner can withstand its consequences physically and emotionally.
Often at times, some relationships grow to the level of exclusivity and commitment where you no longer care about unprotected sex. However, consent entails that you can decide to change your opinion at any point in time, if you get uncomfortable midway and feel having protected sex is best, let him know. It’s mutual because you both agree and understand the risk factors, and still decide to proceed.
When it comes to sex, be sure always to stay protected. Once you have taken every appropriate contraception in the bedroom, no harm is bound to occur. But before you take the plunge and throw those condoms into the waste bin, ensure you have made necessary preventive measures.
When you have thoughtfully considered the following options, you can now proceed to remove condoms from your sex life. Make sure you are at least 70% sure of your partner and can trust him not to change or go against your decisions.
