Most marriages have it the rock today not because of financial difficulties or lack of trust; most couples find it difficult to communicate amongst themselves effectively. Lack of communication in, a marriage will not only kill the joy in your home; it will alienate both partners and make them strangers in their own house.
Couples who can effectively talk things out have fewer problems in their union. Even when they get into altercations, it is easier to let go of the fight and get back together. If your relationship lacks proper communication, you will end up feeling a lot more lonely compared to even a single person.
If you want your journey in marriage to have minor hitches, then, it is time to spice up the communication level with your husband.
Communication is a vital part of any relationship. There are things which you have to talk to your husband about to keep the relationship going. Some of those things include:
1 – Things That Makes You Feel Happy
When you first began dating, you discussed things that made you happy a lot. It was naturally a topic for discussion. However, as your relationship deepens, it’s simple to forget discussions on things that make you happy. This is because things that you felt happy about back when your relationship started may not be things that make you happy now. Always ensure to carry him along with the changes in your life. Your best food might have changed over the last couple of years, you may now like a better movie or have a new crave for another flavor of ice cream. Make sure you at least leave him a clue, this way you both will be on the same page, and you won’t have to blame him for being insensitive to your needs.
2 – Your Goals in Life
What are the things you intend to achieve in the next five years? What does your husband intend to achieve in the next five years too? Are both of you on the same page when it comes to goals?
Talking to one another with regards to your goals in life helps you have knowledge of each other’s wishes and helps you offer the support need and build up your partner as both of you move towards achieving their goals.
3. – Fears, Anxious Thoughts, Insecurities
We all have our anxieties, fears, and insecurities; despite how long you’ve been together as a couple. Discussing your fears and anxieties with your husband will help you to feel a lot of safe when you experience those fears.
4 – Remember Memories and Childhood together
Going down memory lane of how the relations started and things that may you fall in love with him in the first place will serve as a reminder to your husband that you still love him.
Also, discussing good memories from your childhood will help bring you both closer together. It helps both of you know each other more – share those crazy funny childhood stories with him. It helps make the bond grow stronger.
5 – Family Goals and Parenting Guides
Chances are you plan to have kids someday, or you already do. You need to discuss issues like how many children you will love to have. How you intend to raise your children. Most times, you may have a different idea of what a typical family looks like with your husbands. Thus, you need to discuss with your husband to ensure that both of you are on the same page on the matter.
6 – Sex and Love
Many couples argue because of sex. Discussing issues that have to do with sex may make you feel uneasy as maybe you have been conditioned that talking regarding sex is inappropriate. However, the one person you need to be open about issues with sex is your husband. Do you have an idea of each other’s expectations, or you assume what you think your husband wants? Have you ever discussed what intimacy suggests that will help you and your husband fulfill your emotional and physical needs?
The most vital aspect of any marriage communication. Without it, you may miss out on the opportunity to bond well with your husband.
