Most people are of the view that one of the ways to increase intimacy in a relationship is to share secrets and remove boundaries. Although being honest is one of the factors needed to build a successful relationship, there are some things you should never tell your partner.
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There are some areas of your life that you need to keep to yourself. Your partner should figure it out with his imagination; don’t just fuel the imagination with words. They are some of the things you should never tell your boyfriend no matter how close you are;
We Are Not Like We Used To Be Before
When you have been in a relationship for a long time, it is normal to remember the good old days and the honeymoon period. The issue with stating that things are not like they used to be is that it is a cloud over the reality that love gets to evolve with time.
I’m not saying you should not talk about the old days, but when you are now all about the good old days, you may forget to live at the moment and have a good time. This will have a negative effect on your relationship.
You Complete Me
First, you are an independent individual on your own. The relationship is just a part of your being. Thus, you should never say the ‘you complete me’ statement to your spouse or partner. Saying this will make your partner feel more important than he or she should in a relationship.
It may induce this dominant status in your partner. Instead, say, we work best together. Saying this puts your partner in a difficult situation. You are raising the bar too high for him, and this may haunt you later in the relationship.
See your partner as a teammate and work together to improve yourselves. This way you would encourage him to be a better person without having to heap unnecessary pressure on him.
An Insult Disguised As A Joke
There is a thin line between a sarcastic statement and an insult. Some people disguise insults in sarcastic statements. Do not fling such insults at your partner in the name of sarcasm no matter how close you are. You may end up hurting your partner’s ego and leave him frustrated.
Mind how you joke around your partner and understand the kind of person he is before you make jokes around him. Some people don’t mind when you throw playful insults on them, but for another type of persons, it’s a big deal. So make sure you know your partner well before you pull a funny one on him.
You Have Put On Some Weight
When you have been in a long-term relationship with a person, it is easy to enter the comfort zone where you no longer sensor your words. No matter how close you are in a relationship do not the body- shame your partner. If your partner is putting on weight and unhealthy, there are nice ways to inform your partner of the need to stay healthy. Talk to your partner about what his health. Let him see your concern and see reasons why he needs to work on himself. This way you will be doing him a great favor by helping him get better.
I Don’t Care
I don’t care another thing you should not tell your partner in a relationship no matter how long or close you are. The statement directly implies that you have little or no interest in your partner neither do you have interest in the relationship. You may feel this statement doesn’t mean much, but deep down your partner’s heart, you have stirred up a storm.
Authoritative Statements
A relationship is more of a partnership between two adults who share equal status in the relationship. Thus, using authoritative statements like ‘Because I said so’ is something you should not do in a relationship. Words like that are reserved for the parent-child relationship and not for partners in a relationship.
Avoid these statements and grow a healthy relationship with your partner. Make sure you communicate effectively with your partner at all times. You will have lesser problems in your relationship.
