Although you may feel that well, there is the need for me to reveal each and every of my secrets to your boyfriend so you can come out clean to him to have a healthy relationship. It’s actually beautiful to do that but you need to know which information you can tell your clients that can make him uncomfortable, embarrassed or totally have a negative idea towards you.
Let me tell you. You don’t have to tell it all in relationships! There are some things that you may need to keep private because you may later find them regretful and even embarrassing also you may need to keep them totally private because your boyfriend doesn’t need to know!
Meanwhile it is completely your choice if you want to tell him but you need to weigh these options first and know how you will feel afterwards or how he might react to the news. According to Anna Gonowon, a relationship coach she says; ” if it feels like the information is important to your healthy relationship then spill the beans”.
So here ate some few things that your boyfriend doesn’t need to know;
1. Your cheating history
He doesn’t need to know about your past, how you cheated with you ex boyfriend and how you cheated on him with tons of guys. No man would hear that and stay put. I mean, asides from the fact that it sounds really awkward, it also gives room for the guy to start having doubts about you or if the relationship is gonna work out because he would say he doesn’t want to be with a ‘whore’ even after saying that you’ve changed. He might be a little bit disgusted by that.
2. Your Financial situation.
Sharing your financial situation might seem like a good idea to you at first but to be candid, it sounds dumb and super awkward for you to share your current situation with your boyfriend that “oh dear I use to be broke” well, he may think you want his money and may stay away from you. Oh you say “oh dear do you know how much I use to be worth? I’m worth over$200,000” he may think you are too boastful or think that he cannot match up to your standards especially if he is average or poor. Just let him discover it by himself don’t tell him.
3. Traumatic past
You may want to consider not sharing this. Well as usual, you may think ‘he has to know!’ But does he? If he does happen to know, especially if these traumatic events still affect you and you don’t feel comfortable sharing it, then it might affect your relationship especially if you haven’t gone through the therapy setting.
4. Your past about self-harm/ Depression and Anxiety
If this is an on going issue, then you need to let them in on your past and present status. However, if this is only a past issue, I see no reason why you would feel comfortable telling your boyfriend that you used to be depressed and cut yourself so bad. He might view you like a psycho and another might think that well you deserve pity and would go ‘all-daddy’ over you and might even boss you around. This may affect your relationship.
5. Why your last relationship ended.
Well, it’s good to clear the air so you both can work this out well but! Are you sure he may want to hear that you were abused by your ex? He may hunt you ex down and end his life! Surely you wouldn’t want him to go to jail. You don’t also need to tell him that you got duped by your ex. He might think that you’re too gullible and vulnerable so he can always leave you for the same reason or insult you to your face with what you told him when you both have couples issues.
6. You don’t need to share details about what you like about your ex!
This could be super awkward in a relationship! Don’t you dare do this otherwise you are giving him an idea, a very bad idea that you are still into your ex especially when you mention him all the time or compare him to your ex. He might feel disgusted about what you liked about your ex, and he may feel threatened and suffocated when you do that which might lead you to loose him.
7. Your past Sexual partners/escapades
You wouldn’t want him to judge you right? Then you don’t need to tell him! He doesn’t need to know how many partners you’ve been with before him and how you actually did it with 7 more guys in an open field or in the car or how you were laying faced up or in the toilet. He doesn’t need to know the details. And I tell you, you cannot have a 100% healthy relationship if you divulge this kind of information to him.
