When you are married, and your close friends are not, it may make them feel weird hanging around you. Some people go to the extent of cutting off communication with their single friends once they get married. This is a very thing to do.
There is nothing wrong with being single. Instead of doing this or making your single friends feel sorry about being single, you can do the following to encourage them to be their best.
Things that is likely to be unhelpful to your single friends:
1. Try Setting Them Up For a Date
Trying to set your single friends on a date is not bad on its own. But you may send the wrong signal when you do so. Setting them up for a date may give the impression that you think it is bad or a problem for them to be single and that you need to fix that and that they are not going to live a fulfilled life until they hook up with someone.
can hook them up with your good friend who is asking for recommendations. But when you are always pushing them out to go meet someone or another person, you end up sending the wrong signal. Make sure that you are not too forward about matching them up with a partner.
You may have good intentions but may end up sending the wrong signal. Treat your friends with respect. If you must set them up with a date, make sure it is worthy date. Don’t just get them to meet any random fellow just because you want them to have a partner.
2. Asking Them If they’ve Met Anyone Yet
If you often bring this up in your conversations with your single friends, you will indirectly pass the signal that you think they are incomplete without a significant other. You may end up pushing your single friends into desperation to find the one to get into your good books.
Show concerns about their relationship but do that with respect and caution. If you are to discuss getting a partner, do not be judgmental and blame your friend for her inability to hold down a man.
Even your friend is not making any effort to get hooked up, find out why she has decided to give up on relationships. If her reasons are correct, you should respect her decision, but if she is not, you can go ahead and help her understand she is wrong and needs to do away with such mindset.
3. Doing Things Only With Other Married Friends
Some married people don’t feel comfortable inviting their single friends to come hang out with their married friends. They think that their single friends may not be comfortable in such a situation. Learn to invite your single friends in your couple’s hangouts. They will appreciate you for including them in your plans with your plans and value your friendship more. This will also help them understand the core values of having a family.
Tips to be Helpful to your single friends:
1. Tell Them about the Challenges and Joy of Getting Married
It is most likely that your single friends think that marriage is a bed of roses. It will be helpful if you point out the challenges and the upside of your marriage to your single friends. That doesn’t mean that you should speak badly about your friends in a bid to impress your single friends. Let them know that know the good and bad side of married.
2. Make Your Single Friends a Part of Your Family and Kid’s Lives
Getting your single friend around and comfortable in your family is a great way to be helpful, You can have them bath your kids, or babysit them and hang out with your family. Being that they don’t have a family of their own, you single friends will appreciate you making him or her a part of your family.
3. Pray For Them
The most important help you can give your single friends is to pray for them, not just for them to find the one but for them to live a fulfilled life.
