You have a guy you are crushing on. You decided to tell your best friend about this your new crush and she doesn’t seem all that happy to hear about your crush. Or she just blots it out that she is also crushing on the same guy. That is bad right? How do you handle the situation now? Read on to learn tips on how to handle this situation maturely.
1. Evaluate Your Friendship
You need to ask yourself these questions. How close are you to your best friend? How long have you both know each other? Has it been ages that you’ve been friends with her? How much do you value your friendship with her? You need to be frank when answering these questions. It will help you determine the next step to take.
Meanwhile, bear it in mind that it is almost natural for two girls to develop feelings for the same guy. If not handled well, it causes lead to misunderstanding between the friends and ends the friendships. First, you need to know if the bond is worth losing over the guy. If both of you have come a long way, then it does not worth it to lose the bond because of a guy.
2. Have a Heart-To-Heart Discussion with Your Friend
The worst decision you can take is to pretend that everything is alright when you know that things are not okay. You need to have a serious conversation with your friend.
The mature thing to do is talk things through with your best friends before the situation gets out of hands. If both you and your best friend have come a long way, then it is vital that both of you decide that the issue will not ruin your friendship no matter what happens.
Find a location with little or no distractions. It could be a restaurant or at the part for both of you to meet and talk. Be open about your feelings for your crush and let her express how she feels too. You can ask how long she has had the crush on the guy in question and if the both of them have started dating.
3. Allow the Guy to Decide
If after the conversation, both of you conclude that one of you should date the guy, then it is best to allow the guy to make a choice instead of one of you.
This will help to prevent a situation of competition between the both of you. Both of you may hurt yourselves if you allow it go down to competition. Allow the guy make his choice. Make it a rule never to enter into a contest to know who can will the guy.
It will only break down your friendship and lead to depression. Allow the guy to choose who he is interested in dating. This will help keep your friendship intact notwithstanding who ends up dating the guy in the long run.
4. Let It Go and Move On If the Guy Chooses Your Friend
It may feel bad that your guy has decided to choose your friend over you despite meeting you first. However, you should know that the relationship was going to hit the rocks pretty soon and this is just a sign of what would have been a bitter experience in the future. Let it go and move on with your life. The whole stuff is not worth your stress, and trying to get worked up about it will only do more harm than good.
5. Avoid Your Friend, If She Doesn’t Want To Be Friendly
Well, nobody wants to be friends with someone that takes what belongs to you. So if you have to end your relationship with your friend, please do it without regrets. Having someone who does not respect your relationship is not advisable as you may be hurt in a more significant way in the long run. So cut off all toxic relationships in your life.
You should not allow a man come between you and your girlfriend, but when it happens, and you can’t help it, please take care of yourself.
