Have you ever been in a relationship where you suddenly see no future with your man? This is a confusing state because you want to break up, but you have no idea over what. This is an indication that both of you have drifted apart and you need to be empowered with information to overcome it.
- You need to recognize that this might be just a phase and you will not be busy at all times. There will come a time you will have extra time to sit with your partner and plan your life together.
- Give your man extraordinary love. When your partner is assured of your love they feel secure. Theirs is no better to show your love if not sticking with them even when they mess up.
- Among the culprits responsible for divorce, emotional distancing is the most common. If this distance is not addressed on time it leads to separation. The emotional distancing happens silently and slowly.
- Watch out for the warning signs that you are drifting away and address them. Everybody will notice when they fight with their partners and they work hard to get over the fight and sort out their differences. These are not the signs you need to address, you hardly notice that you hold hands less; you are less humorous, affectionate, excited and empathetic everyday of your life. The smallest details are important and could lead to the success or failure of the relationship. Touch plays a big role in connecting people together, make an effort to increase the times you touch your partner, apart from having sex.
- Find ways to nourish your already existing love. This does not mean that you take a vacation to recapture your love, although it is not wrong. It is using the few moments you and your man share daily to connect. The easy thing to know is you reach out to your partner warmly and respond to them when they try to reach out to you. A few ways to do this include:
- Stop kissing your man goodbye like a routine and make sure that you really mean it every time. Enjoy every bit of the kiss like you are madly in love.
- When you are on your way out no matter how busy you are with final touch ups and instructing the babysitter, the second you hear your partner compliment your looks, take a second to make eye contact and respond positively and warmly.
- When both of you get to bed before you proceed to turn your backs on each other with books to read, take time to acknowledge and appreciate the fact that they have made it home safely.
- It’s time to talk! There is no need to put it so seriously that your partner will escape a heavy conversation. Take time both of you are in a good mood and discuss about how both of you are feeling. Both of you should be willing to make things better and take care of the gap in between.
- You will need to put in more effort to make out time to connect with your man. Sometimes how busy we are overwhelms us and we forget to really connect with our partners. You really need to communicate with your partner until the connection and concern is felt. This will bring you closer.
- Take a step and make an unexpected romantic dinner or lunch or reminding them of their birthday by leaving some love notes. Do something that you know your man likes. These simple impromptu gestures bring you closer together.
- Prioritize your relationship, when you notice you are drifting apart, it is easier feeling like you want to give your man some time to think but that should not be the case. You need all your time and attention to be focused on your relationship currently. The relationship should start healing from the distance it is suffering.
- If you notice you are drifting apart quit complaining all the time. Yes, they are your partner and you have no problem venting and ranting any time you feel like it. When there is a gap between the two of you one tends to always find things that will make them complain, this only makes the matters worse. This is not the time to point out your man’s flaws in this and that. When you feel you want to complain, remember you will push your man further away so you would rather stop and keep things on a light note.
- Avoid useless arguments which have no conclusion just to entice your ego. Your man hurt you, but arguing with them that they started the drifting away is not going to solve anything. In fact, things will be weirder between you. Skip that bit to avoid more conflict and focus on solutions.
- Most importantly, do not ignore the drift and hope that it will go away. Silence will only cook up the problem to a huge fight that cannot be mended and might lead to the termination of the relationship.
