My phone just chimed. I wonder who it is. Chester is asking me what am I doing? Does that mean he wants to get together or he’s curious to know what I am doing at this exact moment? Never fear, there is no need to stress, we’ll tell you the psychology behind a guy asking you what you are doing.
What Does it Mean When a Guy Keeps Asking You WYD?
He wants to get together with you. When a guy keeps asking you WYD, it means that they are interested in getting together with you. First, a lesson on abbreviations. WYD translates to ‘What (are) You Doing?’
Prepare yourselves, because you are going to hear this a lot when you start dating. They’re asking you if you are free because they are bored. When dating, it’s highly essential to spend as much time as you can with your partner.
Why Do Guys Ask What are You Doing?
Most of the time, guys ask you what you are doing because they are bored. You are not sure of his intentions yet which is why you have to find out. However, there are more translations.
- He Wants to Hook Up
Okay, a guy who texts you ‘WYD’ translates to wanting to hook up with you. Depending on where you are in the relationship, it is okay to ask him. But, for ladies who are not in a relationship and a guy texts you this, they may be looking for someone to talk to.
- He Needs to Vent
Girls are not the only ones who need to vent. Guys don’t like to show emotions because they believe that it will make them look weak. Guys text you to see if you are free to talk. It’s okay to feel flattered by the gesture because it means that he can talk to you about anything.
- He Wants to Maintain Regular Contact
A guy asks what you are doing because they want to maintain regular contact with you. He may not speak to you during every moment of the day, but he likes to remain in contact with you.
- To Ask About Your Day
Most of the day, he is just asking to see how your day was. For example, let’s say that the two of you are in separate colleges. Because you are distant, he is asking how your day has been to be nice. And because you have not talked in a while so it’s nice to reach out to an old friend.
- Takes Interest in Your Hobbies
In the dating world, a guy wants to get to know what you like. He wants to see what movies you like, what type of music you listen to, or if you like to draw or write. You never know you might have something in common. Then you can meet up and do this activity together.
- He Wants You to Meet his Family
Meeting his parents is normal. Then again, check the timeline in this relationship, or if you are in a relationship. Guys text you ‘WYD’ to see if you are free and if you are interested in having dinner with his family.
- He is Making Time for You
Be happy that he has made time to text you. ‘WYD’ could be a surprise text. He has made time in his schedule to see if the two of you can hang out.
- Trying to Make a Good Impression
The guy is trying to make a good impression that he cares about you. We should all make a good impression no matter who it is. It’s a hint that he wants to go the extra mile.
- He is Respectful
Instead of forcing you to drop everything that you are doing, alternatively, he asks politely to see if you can get together. That is one of the best traits any anybody.
What to Say When he Asks What I’m Doing?
Okay, so let’s not take an hour to respond on purpose. If you are busy and don’t check your phone for a bit, gently text back and apologize for the wait and tell them that you were busy.
If you are not doing anything when he texts you, here’s what you should respond with.
- ‘Nothing? What are You up To?’
This is an appropriate thing to say to him. Because he is curious about what you are up to, it’s okay to ask him.
- Watch Your Tone
While texting is one of the best inventions of communication, one downfall to it is that nobody is ever sure of the tone of the other.
- Is it Okay to Seek Advice?
The dating world is not easy. Sometimes we need advice from family members or friends. Don’t let the text from the guy wait too long because your friend might be busy when you text them. If you feel that you need advice on how to respond, it’s okay to get advice from your friends.
Aside from texting your friend, seeking advice from the web is a better (and faster) way on how to respond. We all have varying opinions on relationship advice, but it’s all there on the Internet. Read a quick article or thread about the subject. Once you figure out what to say, answer the text.
- Should I Say I’m Busy?
Before immediately telling him that you are busy, analyze the situation. Do you want to get together with him if he is asking you in a platonic or relationship? If you say that you are busy and he asks what you are doing again coming up with another lie will be difficult.
He’ll catch on. If you want to tell him that you are busy, have an answer thought up, but you should take a chance and see what he is up to.
- Just Text Him
Text him a response. Don’t wait out on texting him back. That’s not going to help either side. If it’s been like 30 minutes, he’s going to think that you doing this on purpose. It makes it worse if you don’t respond until a day later.
Text him now. Don’t wait. Take a breath. Say something along the lines that you are not doing anything right now, ask him how he is, and maybe respond with ‘WBU’ too.
How to Respond to What are You Doing Texts
Similar to what you should say to him, respond quickly. We understand that many thoughts are filling your head at this moment, but here’s how to respond.
Before responding, but don’t take an hour, these are some of the emotions or thoughts that go through somebody’s mind.
- Should I Wait to Text Him?
If you have to wait, this is okay. But if you are not doing anything and decide to respond to him a couple of hours later, that raises suspicion. Because you are so new to the dating game, you don’t know all the dating rules yet. I don’t want to look too eager, do I? Your best bet is to wait at least five minutes.
- Is it (Finally) Happening?
Did Andrew finally get up the courage to ask you out? You wonder if he is going to take you out on a date. Or a movie? Does he want to talk about our relationship? Here’s how you respond – “Do you want to do something?
- Is This What You Think it Is?
If I were you, I would not respond with, ‘Do you finally want to date me?’ No, that makes the guy run for the hills. Instead, study the relationship that you have with the guy. He may be just texting you to be nice or start a conversation. Just respond with, ‘hi, not much, how is everything with you?’
- ‘Has He Always Liked Me?’
Relationships are never easy. Whether you have known a guy your whole life or you never thought this guy noticed that you existed, your mind will respond with ‘has he always liked me?’
Whether he is interested in you or if you’re super flirty he likes you and you like him if you catch him looking at you. But you cannot show that in your response. Take a step and ask, ‘Want to hang out?’
- Should I Ignore Him?
Do you even know who is texting you? Is that someone with who you have not had an unhealthy relationship? Did this guy move away and this is the first time he is contacting you in a year? It’s okay to not respond. Sometimes silence is golden and now you can move on.
Avoid Relationship Drama
The dating world is stressful. There is no rule in the book that says that you have to date. If you don’t want to deal with the stress of a guy asking ‘WYD’ then don’t respond, spend time with yourself, and return to the dating world when you want to.
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