When you meet on a night out and go straight back to his apartment for some no strings attached red hot in between the sheets action you both know where you stand. Neither of you are expecting anything more than to see each other a couple of times a month for a repeat performance. However, when your so called boyfriend spent months moving heaven and earth on your behalf. Has introduced you to every member of his family including his invisible friend Casper that no one else knows about but now you and him. Then one day out of the blue starts treating you like a booty call! What’s up with that? Here are some reasons why a guy might have changed his mind about you.
Mission Accomplished
This sounds ever so harsh but it’s an unfortunate reality for many women. Now, before you start planning to chop off his ding dong, hear me out. Men are wired to chase, it’s just the way things are it’s been like that from the beginning of time and it will continue to be that way until the end. The problem is that men can often set their heart on conquering a woman and once they get her and they are certain that the woman has got strong feelings for him his desire to chase is aroused again. In short you are no longer a challenge, and have become boring to him! The only reason why he hasn’t gone ahead and dumped you is because he is actually emotionally invested in you, he still has feelings for you but he is hungry for the chase. So he subconsciously starts pushing you away by spending less time with you and having to leave after you’ve had sex and stops sending you loving messages. Deep down he is hoping that you will start playing hard to get so that he can start chasing you again. This rarely happens, the woman get’s all clingy and that just pushes him further away and before you know it you’ve been dumped!
He Changed His Mind
Unfortunately some men are just cowards! He got into a relationship with you and has decided that things are not what he was expecting and he wants to leave but he doesn’t have the guts to tell you. Instead he changes his behaviour in the hopes that you might get the message and dump him so that he doesn’t have to.
He Got Scared
There are some men who are afraid of their own shadow and as soon as they start getting feelings for a girl they run a mile! There is actually a neurological reason for this; the part in the brain that is responsible for our emotions is called the limbic system. It is smaller in men than it is in women. Women are capable of thinking and feeling at the same time, whereas men put their thoughts and their feelings into two different categories. This is why men find it so difficult to express their feelings; they are unable to comprehend the fact that these two actions in the brain are supposed to work together.
You Did Something Wrong
Since men find it difficult to express how they feel, if you did something to offend him there is a high possibility that he’s not going to tell you about it. You may have accidently given him mixed messages that made him feel as if he wasn’t the only guy you were seeing. Examples include:
- He accidently read a text message from an ex boyfriend saying he loves you.
- You didn’t introduce him to your room mate as your boyfriend.
- You asked him to leave after you had sex because you had other things to do.
These are just a few of the things that could have happened. You are going to have to ask yourself what you could have done to upset him.
You Started Acting Needy
Men can’t stand needy women; it’s a complete turn off to them because it indicates that they are insecure. Have you been asking him probing questions such as “why didn’t you respond to my text message?” or “Where have you been all day?” Questions like this are red flags to him and chances are you’ll trigger his rejection thermometer. Have you been dropping everything to spend time with him? When you invest too much in a guy too quickly it indicates that you don’t have anything going on in your life.
Final Thought
A man doesn’t just switch off for no reason, there’s definitely something that he’s not telling you. Asking to talk isn’t going to help, it will only make matters worse men hate the “we need to talk” attitude so please don’t do this or he will shut off immediately. If you don’t like being a booty call it’s quite simple, stop being one. When he calls say you’ve got other things to do and one of two things will happen. He’ll either come running back or you’ll drift apart and that will be it, you’re a free agent again!
