Swinging is also known as partner swapping which means partners in a committed relationship involve other partners in sexual activities as a social or recreational activity. The definition alone will make you wonder if this is real but it is very real. The next question you have is how does this even benefit your relationship? It might not benefit everyone as expected but listen, may be it might benefit your own relationship.
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Who is a swinger? Swingers are couples or singles who practice an open relationship by allowing their partners have sex with other people, with their consent.
There are rules which govern swinging such as:
- Be willing to follow the rules.
- Be honest with your significant other.
- Respect each other.
- Testing for STDs is a must.
- Choose swinging partners selectively.
- Always use protection when swinging.
- Swinging remains a private part of your life and your relationship.
- It is advisable for couples to get involved in this together, not that one wants it and one is not into it.
These are not a must follow rules but they will help you as a couple know what to expect and also they will act as a guide to more rules you come up with and need to adhere to as a couple. Make sure that both of you are in agreement of what rules you need to follow and vow to abide in them.
Singles or couples who engage in swinging as a social activity seek to get excitement for being with another partner or other partners who are not their boyfriend or girlfriend. The main purpose is to enjoy sexual satisfaction from other people other than their boyfriend, girlfriend or spouses. To do this you need to have developed a good foundation of trust for your relationship. Trust that will make sure that your spouse is not worried every time you go swinging for the fear that they will lose you to another. People choose their partners depending on their moods or on their likes some will go for the same sex mates while others will want opposite sex mates.
Why people choose swinging?
- Some couples want to just play with others.
- Some are just curious and are ready to explore different sexual desires.
- Some will find a couple that is suitable for their swinging requirements.
- Some will do it because their significant other is too tired.
- A man will do it because his wife has just given birth and cannot engage in sex for some time.
- Others will allow their significant other to engage in swinging because they will be travelling for a while leaving their spouses feeling sexually starved.
So how are swinger vacations healthy for relationship?
I. Creating relationships which are only for enjoying sexual pleasures. More like having ‘friends with benefits.’
II. Swinging spices things in the bedroom for you, it is a way to ensure things do not go stale in your bedroom.
III. When couples watch other couples they learn how to role play in the bedroom in different scenarios.
IV. For individual couples swinging boosts their self –esteem and egos.
V. Some get their sexual moods increased
VI. For those who cannot remain faithful to their partners now have a way to take care of their sexual desires without hurting their spouses.
VII. No extra financial obligations to take care of. Think of it this way if you are a man and you are cheating you have to take care of dinners, pay for lodging and also take care of your girlfriends needs such as paying house rent among others.
These are things that make relationships last longer because they provide excitement to the relationship over time.
It is very important for couples to remain discreet about their swinging life and no children should be involved in this. When some family members know of your swinging lifestyle it might not go down well with you and other relatives because they might find it weird and wild at the same time. The only way to get through swinging is discussing with your partner about it and coming up with rules that will help both of you get through it without feeling insecure.
This is just for the wild and the brave enough to try. It is bizarre and strictly rules need to be followed.
