Love is a beautiful thing! It has no boundaries and can affect just about anyone. So don’t be surprised when your boss looks at you with that smile that is heavier than your workload, he could be in love with you.
When you notice that your boss at the office has been admiring you for some time, he is finally making moves get prepared so you will not be caught unawares.
Although, most office romances finally develops into a lifetime relationship, ending up as marriage. However, it’s never ideal to date the boss.
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There are usually many setbacks from dating the boss, which includes; violation of potential working ethics, perceived favoritism and jealousy from colleagues, and some unintended and negative consequences that are bound to pop up as the relationship continue to mature.
Here is the thing to consider before reply his appeal:
Get Cleared Of His Intentions
It’s very imperative you have a clear view of his plans, clarify if it is strictly platonic or not. He might be merely trying to be the helpful boss, for instance, maybe someone called at the eleventh hour to date at the cinema, saying they won’t be making it and the boss decides to go with because he thinks you will find it a great idea.
Even in such scenarios, you, need to take in-depth consideration of your appearance and how to comfortably handle the situation if gossips begin to spread around the workplace that you followed your boss to see a movie at the cinema. Find out what your boss wants from you and make sure you are comfortable with it. If you are not comfortable, politely turn him down and don’t go about telling other guys at work about his feelings towards you, you don’t want to create an enemy in your office.
Take Time To Study The Company Policy
If you are eager and interested in having a date with your boss, ensure to confirm from the human resources department on the company’s policy. Although, most companies as compared to in the past, have limits to office dating, more especially when a supervisory position is involved. If there such policies, feel free to share your findings with your boss and politely express your desire of being ethical. However, if your company does not frown at office romance, then you can have a go at it with your boss. Just make sure your relationship does not jeopardize your official duties, and if your boss is your direct superior, get ready to take orders and queries from him with all your heart.
Think About How You Feel
Take some time to check your feelings. Do you like this guy? Are the both of you compatible? Do you see the thing working out between the two you?
It won’t be thoughtful, putting your job and career on the line, unless you are so attracted to your boss and have seriously deep feelings for him as a person not because he is your boss. You have to understand that even the relationship goes south, your job will be critically affected. Correctly evaluate your options before you fall for your boss.
Just In Case You Decide To Agree, Set Some Rules:
If you finally decide to give him a “yes” for an answer, you need to consider setting some ground rules. On how you plan on handling resulting or perceived a conflict between your professional and work lives, and how slowly you would like to take things.
Setting rules like letting other employees know or not? Do you feel it right to share, dating your boss with other colleagues, and when it’s right to let the cat out of the bag?
Consider the longer-term consequences
After considering the pros and cons of going on a first date, you the still need to think further down the line and weigh the long-term implications if the relationships eventually blossoms into a lifetime affair.
If you believe “love is blind” they either you or your boss should be ready to switch department, or even take up new employment elsewhere to keep the relationship going and avoid unnecessary professional conflict at your workplace.
