We all have fantasies. Some people dream about doing it on a plane. Some others wanna do it with their teacher. Or maybe even in public? The list goes on and on. But, many of our sexual fantasies are simply not realistic—like my fantasy of doing it with Shemar Moore– but some are. Maybe you and your man have thought about a threesome. There’s just something about adding a person to the equation—or should I say occasion?
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To some people that is just a no-no, because whether you invite a man or a woman things can go wrong either in the moment, or later on between you two—or three. Don’t rule it out if it’s something you know you and your guy would be into, but there are certain things to keep in mind before you make the decision.
In this post we will share with you 6 tips to follow before, during and after having a threesome to have the best experience in a healthy way. Ready?
1. Make the decision TOGETHER. You need to make sure you both want to do it. If one of you has doubts or is not comfortable with the idea of a threesome, it could be dangerous to proceed and it could cost you your relationship.
2. Plan it ahead. We all have enjoyed spontaneous sex, sometimes it is the best. But not in this case. It could be disastrous. You both need to be well aware of each other’s expectations and ‘rules’. Make sure you both know what each other want and don’t want. If there’s something one of you don’t wanna allow, make it clear before hand. That way you both will enjoy more and worry less.
3. Choose the person wisely. It is totally up to you who you wanna invite to the ‘party’. But be cautious. Sometimes when a close friend is involved, things can turn really akward. You might think you both will feel more comfortable with someone you know, but insecurities and bad thoughts can pop-up afterwards and take the joy away from the experience.
4. Decide if you wanna keep it a secret. People love to brag about these type of experiences. After all, not everybody is brave enough to try them. But think it through. If it is something you wanna keep private, make sure the third person involved knows it. Or if you don’t mind them telling, make sure which details you want or don’t want them to share.
5. Use protection. This sounds like common sense, but trust me, you need the reminder. If your man is gonna be penetrating 2 ladies, make sure he changes condom.
6. Don’t finish what you started. Ok, you planned it perfectly, you chose the right person, you know exactly what you want, but, something doesn’t feel right. Stop. Don’t feel like you need to finish just because the other two people expect you to. Let your mate know how you feel and stop before any regrets.
After reading these 6 basic tips, you will be more prepared and informed to make the right decision. It will also keep you and your man relatively safe and you will spice up your sex life without running any big risks.
