You’re single and hitting the clubs, having a good time. Sometimes you head out with your friends. Sometimes you go out on your own hoping your friends will find you. But it can get crazy out there no matter which way you go. You’re attractive. And men want to meet you. They want to hook up and see where things go. But you’re one of the few attractive women still left with values. So while you’re out on the town, you’re facing the moral dilemma of whether or not any of these men are going to turn out to be married. It matters. What if you find yourself being drawn in by the married guy who’s out cheating on his wife? It happens! And you’d rather avoid that particular snake in the grass. So how can you tell?
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- The Tan Line
Check his ring finger for a tan line. True, lots of men wear rings who aren’t married. And that’s going to be his argument. But most guys that are single aren’t going to wear a ring where the wedding band goes.
- He’d Rather Call You
This isn’t a sure sign. But if your guy always needs to control the time and place of your phone conversations, you might have a married guy on your hands. But also check to see if he frequently has to duck out of whatever room he’s in to talk with you on the phone, or does the same with whoever called while he’s with you. These can be telltale signs that he’s covering his tracks.
- You Don’t Know Where He Lives
The married man certainly can’t bring you home. He’s got a wife in there, and maybe a few kids. And even if she were on a trip across country, she lives there. Her things are there. You’d know he was married. And he doesn’t want you showing up knocking on his door! Finding out where this guy lives isn’t going to happen.
- He Usually Can’t Stay The Night and Rarely The Entire Weekend
This guy has a curfew. He’s like dating the male version of Cinderella. When the clock strikes midnight, he’s out the door so fast you’re afraid his sneakers are going to turn to glass. Okay, maybe he stays ’til two. But the results are the same. And he’s going to have a million reasons like: he’s got to work the next day. That’s a pretty good one, though. Or, he’s got to help some friends out, relatives, the dog. Whatever it is, he needs to get home. Later, he’ll have the commitment issue conversation with you. This guy is bad news. If he’s not married, you are still not anywhere close to the top of his priority list. Stay away from Cinderella.
- The Holidays Are Here and You’re Spending Them Alone
If this is the case, it’s time to light the yule time log with all those love notes he gave you… really. There are no excuses. You aren’t dealing with a thoughtless guy anymore. You have become the secret he’s trying to keep. You have been left out of the loop for a reason. No one should take president over you. Go back to being single. Find someone who’s single too. Don’t sit there pining away over a married guy, because look who’s spending the holiday’s alone. It doesn’t matter if leaving him is going to make your heart feel like you’re dragging it across broken glass. Those are his damn glass sneakers anyway scattered across your front steps! Pick your heart up, kick the sneakers out of your path, and move on.
